Top 10 Things Girls Do Wrong When Dating
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To girls, dating might be one of the most important things. Some women seem to date more than they sleep. While that probably isn’t true, if you’re a girl or you have a close female friend, you have probably heard her talk about dating or her lack there of. In any case, women date in order to find “the one.” Some give up easily, some don’t. Some women will spend days preparing ahead of time for a set date with a possible fling.
While some women will prepare ahead of time, others won’t prepare at all. No matter how much or how little time you spend preparing yourself for the big night (or day, some men slack off on a nice evening meal,) it’s almost positive that you will make a mistake during some part of the dating process. Whether it’s before, during, or after the date, rest assured that you’ve made a mistake; just don’t dwell on it for too long! Here are the top 10 things us females do wrong, sometimes without knowing.
10. Honesty is the Best Policy
Dating isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Sometimes you think that you know the person you’re on a date with, but maybe something unexpected comes up and you’re completely thrown off by the guy. If this is the case, honesty is the best policy. Women often like to pretend that they are still interested in the guy even though they really aren’t. Telling the truth during the dating stage is very important. Remember, be honest.
9. Date One Guy at a Time
This mistake may not be as common, but I’ve definitely heard my share of girls that have done it. Generally you hear it most from men in the form of bragging. Some girls decide to date multiple guys at the same time. While these guys may not be considered “boyfriends,” dating many guys at once can cause an issue. Try to stick to dates with one guy. Once you realize that he isn’t “the one” or you just aren’t interested in him, you can move on to the next one and wish for better luck.
8. Only Trust Reliable Resources for Advice
If you’re one of those females that has a lot of female friends, it is very likely that you have run into this mistake. Say its Saturday night, you’re at a friend’s house with all of your other girlfriends. The conversation switches to advice about dating and men and without thinking, you probably let your mind soak in all of this “advice” that is thrown around. Hello, mistake! Asking advice from people who know nothing about dating is a very common mistake. Maybe it’s just me, but girls with boyfriends generally aren’t spending a nice Saturday night with a bunch of their girlfriends. If you want dating advice, ask someone who knows about men and relationships. (This excludes ex-boyfriends, and parents!) Photo credit Effloresco
7. Stay Sober
If you’ve been on enough dates, your date has probably invited to take you to a bar or offered to buy you drinks for the night. Though it may not seem like one, this is most definitely a mistake. While it may be nice to have someone else pay your alcohol tab for the night, allowing your date to buy you unlimited drinks is a mistake! As great as it may be, by the end of the night, especially if you don’t know your limits, you might just find yourself drunk. If your date wants to meet at a bar, try to pick a new location. Drinking may be nice, but ending a date drunk and waking up the next day without remembering much isn’t fun.
6. Dress Appropriately
A few days before the date, you and a friend are at the mall shopping. You realize that you have money to spend, so you decide to put it towards an outfit that you think will make you look the best on the day of your date. While clothes may look good on the mannequin, don’t assume that they look good on you. The mistake here is buying the wrong clothes and not trying on what you buy. Though you might think your date will enjoy all of the leg that you are showing off, try to dress “classy” as they put it. Don’t go all out, your date isn’t looking for you to be wearing Cinderella’s dress, but don’t under-dress either. Photo credit ukdavew
5. Be Conversational, but Keep it Interesting
During a date, talking is probably one of the most important yet nerve-racking (for some) things to do. Some women prefer that the guy lead the conversation and ask the questions, some prefer that they lead the conversation, and others want a fine balance between the two. If you’re on a date, keep in mind what you’re talking about. It’s safe to say that your date doesn’t care to hear about your first pet, you’re entire life story, or stories that you and your friends find funny. Sparking boring conversation is a big mistake that girls make while on a date. If the guy asks you a question, answer it and make sure that you don’t find yourself going off on a tangent. Keep it simple and understandable yet interesting.
4. Don’t Jump Ahead
Once you’ve gotten over the bump of the first date, many girls like to pick up the phone and yap about how special and nice this new guy is. Before you know it, and without even realizing it, you’re calling this man your boyfriend. Wrong! Not only is this a bad mistake, it could really ruin the “relationship” that the two of you had made in the course of a day. To put it easily, going on one date and calling a guy your boyfriend is just crazy. It just makes you look clingy and way to into the relationship. You can at least save all of that for when the relationship really starts!
3. Don’t Become Infatuated
Another mistake that many women make is jumping the gun and thinking that a guy automatically likes them. The date is over, you’re feeling the butterflies still, and all you can think about is the “look” that he gave you. You call your best friend and the “OMGs” and “perfects” seem to spew out of your mouth. Mistake! Maybe he just had something in his eye, or maybe he was just being nice and trying to make eye contact with you. No matter what, it’s fatal (not really) to jump the gun and assume that the guy automatically likes you. As much as we all want to believe in the lovey-dovey “love at first sight” thing, it’s very doubtful that a man has his mind made up right after the first date. Don’t assume anything, for you are dating a man, and for the simple reason that you don’t want your hopes to come crashing down. Photo credit elisabethsarah
2. Know Where to Find a Date
A common mistake that girls make is simply looking in the wrong places for men. That’s right, this mistake takes place way before the dating even begins. Really, do you think that you’ll find your dream man at the mall, the grocery store, or the local town festival? I’d say no, but I guess it’s all personal opinion. Though looking in the wrong places are generally the easiest places to find men, try stepping outside of the box (the box being a mile away from your home.)
1.Be Patient
Right before the date is over, maybe he asks, or maybe you offer to give your phone number to him. In your head fireworks are going off, your heart is pounding and you’re excited. Once he has the number and the date has ended, you keep tabs on your phone as if it was your source of oxygen. You wait and wait until your ringtone goes off. Big mistake. Even though he might have asked for your number or accepted it, it doesn’t mean that he is going to call you in an hour, four hours, or even the next day. Don’t expect or even assume that he is going to call you; it’s definitely way too much stress! Fact is most men won’t call when you want them to. Photo credit Missiz Beasley
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Well I have no dating experience so I can’t really vouch for any of these. But I think I see the central problem, which is immaturity in the parties involved. Those who hype up dating to be more than what it is or expect more of it.
Now I’ve never been asked on a date but I can guarantee that I will never do lots of these things because I’ve been able to mature as a person and learn who I am. I’m not going to try and be someone I’m not on a date. I talk a lot so the conversation one is….not necessary. I’ll be leading the conversations. Hands down. Plus, I don’t drink so…the buying drinks one is also impossible.
Some of them I don’t know if I’ll do just because I don’t have the experience to tell me. But I’ll certainly keep them in mind. I am wary through because this list comes from one individual and you can never generalize one individual’s opinions for the entire gender they try to represent.
This is a pretty terrible set of rules. The best advice is honest and tested advice: just be yourself.
Was this written by a 12 year old? Don’t wear clothes that don’t look good on you? Don’t become obsessed with a guy after one date? Don’t talk about boring things on a date? Wow! What helpful advice! What about picking your nose and farting? Is that attractive to a man? Please add that as # 11. What about asking how much money he makes? Or comparing him to your ex?
…has the author of this article ever BEEN on a date? Or spoken to an actual woman? Sounds to me like a compendium of all the stereotypical “female” behavior that has been popping up in truly horrendous chick flicks of late.
D-. Try harder.
PS: Acting like women who spend their Saturday nights with girlfriends are sad, lonely harpies who MUST be single? Ridiculous. The idea that single girlfriends might not have ALWAYS been single, and thus have valuable advice to offer? Completely valid.
Interesting!
um, this sucked. The biggest mistake a person can make while on a date is to try to be someone else – try to be too funny, too interesting or simply someone you are not.
If it doesnt work out…it doesnt work out.
this stuff was a crock!
This is a ridiculous list. I feel like the author is still in college if not high school.
Wow, I don’t get all the animosity from these comments. I’m male and a father of a 19 year-old daughter and I thing this is solid advice. Thanks for writing this, Ash.
Terrible list with useless “advice”. Also, it would have been better if each piece of advice was written in the title of each bullet.
Jasmine, sorry this list wasn’t too your liking. I did correct the list so it displays like the other top 10 lists.
I’m very surprised about the negative reactions. I did debate adding this list and had it for months and finally decided to let it out. All the lists can’t be winners, but hopefully a few people found it interesting. I’ll be sure to learn from this and keep the lists away from advice in the future.
I took the list to be purely humorous rather than advice. In that regard, it’s a perfect list. As “real” advice, not so much.
I agree with what someone said said up above, the best thing to do is be yourself.
Could be me but I think the venom in the above responses could be coming from gals who have dated for far too long….very telling.
What does that mean, “Gals who have dated for far too long”? How long is too long to date?
Interesting list…however, number 2 on this list should not be here. This list is titled 10 thihngs girls do wrong WHEN dating.
The number 2 is on this list is BEFORE the actual date…
LMAO IT AMUSES ME
ROFL! Haha, I thought the list was hilarious. I think some people are taking this one too seriously.
My gf recently accepted a gift from another boy…how do i handle this?