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  • Jaimie

    Um, I have Nymphomania (due to nerve damage) and my boyfriend considers himself the luckiest man alive – sure I wear him out, and he knows I take a mini-vibe with me everwhere, but he knows I'd never cheat on him, and we have an amazing love and sex life.

    These are more humourous tidbits than "fact".

    Quite a waste of what could have been a truly informative list!

    • Jamie, sorry you feel this way. I don't really have to defend this writer as she researches everything and backs up her facts with sources. You can see that everything written was researched. You don't give any specifics and condemn the list. If you really are a nymphomaniac I think you could be more verbose in your disagreement. You could have made this a more informative list, but you simply chose to waste our time with your dismissive comment.

      Please feel free to actually add something if you respond back.

      • Melissa

        I agree with Jamie. She states that she is a great girlfriend so that debunks myth#5 and myth #8 stating that “it’s all in her head”. There’s no offense to whomever wrote this piece, it is well written however, I believe the title is deceiving as it could have been titled the top 10 facts about nymphomania instead of nymphomaniacs. That’s the only difference. It appears that the writer is stating that these are facts about nymphomaniacs and there’s several on the list that are not true for me. It was fun to read.

    • asif

      lucky boyfriend!!!!!!!!!!

      i liked when u said "he knows I’d never cheat on him"

      what else does a guy needs

    • Judymc

      I was a medical professional, and I have never heard Nymphmania being caused from nerve damages. Actually, it stems from an over production of certain hormones.

      I certainly do not consider myself a nymph by any definition, but I have strong sexual desires, and could always outlast my husband, and wanted it more than he could provide, although he was a philanderer. (we are now divorced) However, I never stepped outside of our marriage. I had an excessive production of androgen, and was a cold fish. After taking an androgen blocker for a few months, I was anything but a cold fish. As long as I take my medication, I maintain those strong desires, but now that I am divorced, i’m not involved with any one sexually, because I agree with the Bible, that sex outside of marriage is a sin. I thought this article was very well written. Matter a fact, I was impressed. I not sure about the chocolate theory, however, although, I am too a chocoholic, but certain foods do stimulate hormones.

      Soy, milk, herbs..etc
      I happened upon this article my acident, and only read it out of curiosity, and was surprised how much information was included, and the muture emphasis on the subject.

    • ab

      Nympho maniac is termed towards those who only live for sex with anyone. They thrive off the high of sexual desires to block whatever caused this imbalance to begin with. Usually it’s abuse at a young age or routine. Drugs do cause this disease as well. If you have sex or desires 10-15 times a day or maybe a little more does not constitute you as a nymphomaniac. Try 24/7 desires Constantly even with strangers you pass on a street that may be appealing to you. I because I had that obsession and the lady who wrote this article is 100% correct. It ruins your life without sex. I cured my obsession a while ago with a lot of psychotherapy. Hope this helps you understand what a nymphomaniac is truly defined as in the real world.

  • Liz

    A friend posted on Facebook yesterday that what did it mean that she couldn't get the song "Sexual Healing" out of her head… Funny to see the song again today!

    There are treatments out their for sexual addicts, of course. Not hard to find information online at all. And it's also possible to have a good sex life afterwards — that's what sex therapist and sex addiction therapist Alexandra Katehakis addresses in her book "Erotic Intelligence." It's all about how to integrate the good, healthy sex after a person becomes "sober" from compulsive sexual behaviors." (And by the way, the "compulsive" part is the problem, as noted in the post…) I like that the book talks about intimacy, and how to achieve that, as part of a healthy sex life. Good stuff.

  • BestofStumbleUpon

    I think Jaimie's irritation is that so much of the list sheds a negative light on Nymphomania, which as a nymphomaniac myself I can understand, I was a little offended in places, just being honest. I don't like the term "sex addict" in relation to Nymphomania either because "addicts" do terrible things to feed their addiction. I hand have _never_ cheated on a boyfriend, even when given ample opportunity to do so because while I absolutely love sex I also have a moral standard and respect myself.

    The main issue with this list is that it lumps sex addicts, sluts and nypho's all into one category, which I assure you is not fact based. While the 3 obviously overlap in some ways they are NOT all the same thing. This article is entertainment and not fact, there is nothing wrong with that (other than the title implies otherwise).

    • Here is an excerpt from #7.

      "No longer used by medical professionals, the term nymphomaniac is still in use in our vocabulary. Urbandictionary.com defines a nymphomaniac as “a horny girl. Not to be confused with slut or skank where one’s sexual dignity is pathetically low, nymphomania is simply related to an abnormally high sex drive.”"

      Tanya backs up every statement with sources and certainly never gave the impression that people with this disorder are sluts. These are not her opinions, these are facts that have been found on the web. You may disagree and that is okay.

      • Self-professed 'nymphomania' is something completely different: someone with a high sex drive who 'absolutely loves sex,' but who is able to control their desires. This is very different from the medical condition formerly known as 'nymphomania' – now called by other names by medical professionals: sexual addiction, compulsivity, hypersexuality, or (in the case of physical injury) persistent sexual arousal syndrome.

        While I touch on the history of the term and add some 'humorous tidbits,' I think I also emphasize that the true medical problems related to this term are actually very serious and can have all sorts of negative repercussions for the sufferer. Let me emphasize again that the medical conditions I listed above are actually very serious – and sufferers should seek professional help and take care that they are not being exploited by the people around them.

        I'd like to ask our TopTenz master not to post any more comments that include self-professions of nymphomania. That is not what this list is about. If you need help, please go get it. If you don't, please keep the details of your sexual behavior to yourself (or post it in a more appropriate forum).

        • BestofStumbleUpon

          You are incredibly hostile. You should welcome comments in your threads rather than snap at everyone who says something you don't like.

          I could quote several offensive things stated in your "factual article" but I can't be bothered as I am sure one of you would just attack me again (if you even bother to post this comment), don't worry, I won't be back. I've always liked toptenz.net but I refuse to follow a site with such terribly rude people running it.

          • Comments are absolutely welcome. However, I don't feel that this comment thread is an appropriate place for you, or anyone else. to tell the world that you think you are a "nympho."

            If you want to dispute facts, please go ahead, and hopefully you will include sources to back them up. However, don't misread the content of the article and then accuse us of hostility when we point that out… It is obvious that you feel strongly about this issue and it certainly wasn't my intention to offend anyone.

            • Judymc

              I agree. What you have are commenters who need to rationalize their behavior. Not seek help, or understanding.. I found the article very intellectual. However, people cannot intellectualise, when they feel a disorder is actually their character, they cannot separate the two, and no amount of information is going to help them.

      • Shaunna

        I hardly think that Urban Dictionary makes for an adequate “source” for “factual” information…

        • Shell Harris

          The author has linked to numerous sites. I just chose one at random.

  • Morrison

    "or performing 'secret pollutions”'

    You have to love Victorian terminology.

    • Sandeep Bankhwal

      Nymphomaniac women still exists in every society and in every culture. Most of us take wine, some take daily as a habit, while some on rare occasions. But there exists heavy drunkards also. Same is the case with sexuality in women. It is foolish and unnatural to think of curbing it, but you can control to some extent, only and only if you have strong will power.
      1. Nymphomaniac women should not stay alone, but should engaged in their favourite activity.
      2. Avoid heavy food as it enhances sexual appetite and also add weight.
      3. Read classical books or thought-provoking magazine in spare time.
      4. Participate in charity function or think of helping poor and needy people.
      5. Sex is not a bad thing or sin, but remember excess of anything is bad.
      6. Make friendship with girls, mixing too much with opposite sex will arouse sexual feelings.
      7. Sex first comes in mind, then in genital organs. Avoid such thoughts at odd hours.
      8. Start learning some musical instrument. it will keep your mind occupied and free of any indecent thoughts

      • lisa

        Sandeep – I do (3) (4), they do help some. But as for your other suggestions…

        (1) doesn’t work – other people are arousing.
        (2) doesn’t work – I find it arousing.
        (6) doesn’t work – I find girls arousing.
        (8) doesn’t work – I used to sing professionally and would have orgasms on stage whilst singing (I had to cover it up with dance moves) because I became so aroused.

        What does work is distraction in deep thought, so you can replace some of the other ideas with highly focused, highly absorbing work. The accounting I do is very complex, and I don’t have a naughty thought for hours. The volunteer work is interesting and also keeps my mind otherwise occupied.

        • Sandeep Bankhwal

          Lisa, I value and respect your comments. The subject of nymphonaic women is very complex, as different people have different body desires and mechanism. Sex is not sin, if enjoyed under social customs and traditions. One can not become eunuch, just to get rid of excessive sexual drive. But strong desire to check naughty thoughts can solve the problem to some extent.

        • Sandy

          I agree with Lisa, except the professional part, I have tried everything, even have the doctor prescribe something to make me sleepy and that didn’t work, I was after my husband in my sleep, which brings me to my next point, this disease is going to cause my divorce because if it was up to him, it would only be once a month. I went out last year and bought a clone your guy kit and he refuses to make it. He says he is too old to have sex that often, (he is 43) but he has been this way for about 10 years now.

          • George

            43 is too young for a man to loose interest in sex, though it can happen at 18. He may well have a medical condition which is causing this, such as Diabetes, Lime Disease, or others. I’m sorry for your frustration.

            • Sandy

              I have tried to talk to him about it and he wont and I have asked him to see a doctor he tells me that nothing is wrong. I know he is not having an affair, so I think it is just me, he tells me it is not me he just don’t want to. When he first started to lose interest, I just thought it was stress from his job but when it went on for 3 yrs, I told him to put out or get out, because I had needs that he use to take care of, even though i could have sex 3,4,5 times a day I was only trying to get him a least once or twice a week, I have told him that I can find it elsewhere and he just says “Why are you being that way” We have been married 21 years, I am not ready to just throw 21 yrs away, but why should I fight for something that isn’t there anymore? It makes me feel like a nothing when he tells me no. When i go out with my friend I have guys hitting on me and I am starting to think that I am trapped, because of the 21 years with him, he told me it would kill him if I every leave him, so what am I to do?
              There is only some much you can use a vibrator in a day!!!!!!!!! I have even tried sleeping in a different room, he has even gone a far as to switch his work schedule to work 7p to 7a and I think he did that to get away from me a night. When his friends talk about how their wives wont put out he walks away, I asked him why he does that and he said he don’t want them to know he is married to a nympho, how do you think it would go if I just made a doctors appointment and make him go and I go with him to talk to the doctor?

            • George

              How would he feel if you had another man? Not behind his back, but you are asking his approval.

            • George

              It sounds like he does have an emotional attachment to you, because he does not want to loose you. But you have already lost him as a lover. It can be frustrating for the male too, because he is being asked to do something he does not want to do. This breaks your heart too.

              You could tell him you are going to a doctor to see about your sex drive, and then go. There are prescription drugs you can take, which will lower your sex drive. Paxil comes to mind. But if you make the decision to go, and do, then so should he. And at that point, if he is not even willing to see about it, and that he’s not willing to take an equal responsibility to get this resolved, then that lets you off the hook right there.

          • John Alexander

            I’m intrigued. What exactly is a ‘clone your guy kit’? Is it related to the same kit that produced Dolly the Sheep? Can you also buy a ‘clone your woman kit’?

    • Amanda

      (8) Sure, I’m going to learn how to play the flute, oh wait…

      • Sandy

        They make a MP3 player vibrator :), I don’t have one yet!

  • Keith Watabayashi

    I like the idea of the list but I don’t see many facts here, outside of the etymology of the word. Most of this list is old and out-dated opinion and thought being criticized by modern opinion and thought, but very little actual facts.

    • When I was given this topic, I researched "nymphomania" and then built a list around the top 10 most interesting things I found, so maybe I should have given the list a different title. "Top 10 Things You Might Not Know About Nymphomania" isn't very catchy, however.

      Two of the "facts" I list actually contradict each other (4. "It's a Sin" and 3. "It's Not a Sin") – a hint that maybe this list should not be taken too seriously. Unfortunately, everyone seems to be taking it very very seriously, so here is my serious response…

      Fact: The headings are silly, but this list does include several facts, backed up by sources. Perhaps I got something wrong, it happens. If so, please let me know – and include a source so I can go check it out. This is the last time I'm going to repeat this request. If not, by all means keep commenting that the content isn't factual – I'm just not going to respond anymore 🙂

      Here are 10 facts from this list that you can dispute if you like:

      10. The term nymphomania applies to women only. 9. Victorian doctors feared that overindulgence led to nymphomania. 8. Phrenologists believe that an enlarged cerebellum indicates a big sexual appetite. 7. The medical term "nymphomania" is no longer used by doctors. 6. Victorian doctors thought that nymphomania was a symptom of disease. 5. Women who suffer from the medical condition formerly known as ‘nymphomania’ (now called by other names by medical professionals: sexual addiction, compulsivity, hypersexuality, or persistent sexual arousal syndrome) are vulnerable to exploitation/abuse from others. 4. Some people consider lust and sexual addiction to be a sin. 3. Other people see sexual addiction as a route to redemption or a large sexual appetite as a God-given means to celebrate their marriage. 2. There can be many negative consequences. 1. Many addicts/compulsives do not even enjoy sex.

      • Keith Watabayashi

        Uh…I wasn't taking it seriously but it gets under my skin when people claim "facts" when they aren't stating them. Especially when they know they are. I didn't say the list wasn't entertaining or interesting, but the tone and title misrepresent the author's intention.

        • I agree with you about the title – I think it could be better. Thanks for taking the time to read my list and leave your comments.

      • Judymc

        You should not apologize for your article, every one is going to have a different opinion, whether it is out of ignorance, or hostility because of frustration because they can’t fix themselves. You wrote it, and it was well done. I am no expert in this area, but having been a nurse, there are things I do know about the body, and certain conditions, what works, and what does not work. For many years physicians did not really know how to treat this disoder, when in fact it is not really a disorder at all, but a symptom of another problem.

        The lady who’s husband did not want to satisfy her sexually, yes, he has a problem as well. His problem is not uncommon, and there is a reason, and most likely it can be taken care of, it he chose to seek help. I believe what God says about marriage, and he says we are to submit ourselves to one another. Not by force, but by agreement, and since we are married, we should love the other so much, that we want to provide for them that fulfillment. And when someone has no sex drive, they neither have the inclination to do anything about it, because they are actually turned off at the thought of sex, but the moment that is repaired with treatment, those thoughts will change. Sex is a gift from God, but only between a husband and wife. My husband had to take ED meds to perform, but that did not stop him from sleeping around with other women. That is what I would call sick. If you really want to make others hostile, write an article on sexual immorality.

  • John Utah

    This list is bogus. Most of these are not "facts" at all. Most are either dumb misconceptions about nymphomania throughout the past (like 9, 8 and 6), completely improvable or outside the realm of logic or science (like 5, 4 and 3) or otherwise just too vague to even be considered something worth posting as its own *FACT* entry. Also, TopTenz says that he doesn't "really have to defend this writer as she researches everything and backs up her facts with sources…" Ummmm, okay, since when is Urban Dictionary an authoritative source on contemporary usage? And just because something is taken from one single book or website, which may or may not be an authority, it does not mean that it is now a bona-fide *FACT*. I mean, not to mention the obviously contradictory entries of 4 and 3, which is either some sort of author's sly wink at the fact that none of these entries are really *FACTS* but rather just another lump of tidbits packaged together into another crappy list, or a ridiculously glaring oversight on the author's part that – due to most internet bloggers' sub-par skills in logic, reason and language – still remains unnoticed that this is indeed not a list of *FACTS*.

    • In fact this list IS "just another lump of tidbits packaged together into another list" – that is, as you say, a *FACT.* It's not really pretending to be anything else, since it's up here on this fun Top 10 website and all…

      Watch out for my Top 10 Facts About Anger Management coming soon… the perfect list for people who can't read a silly little top 10 list without completely freaking out. There's logic and reason for you…

      • Jizzamie

        LOl…..I enjoyed this list very much, as I do all lists on here and I never understand why people take things so seriously. In the very beginning of your article you posted a number for people to call if they felt they needed help and then actually said ” now let’s get back to our not so serious list”. It’s right there folks.

  • Okazu

    I loved the pictures to this article most of all 🙂

  • John Alexander

    Aside from all the prurient speculation and lavatorial humour, there is substantial research evidence that so-called 'Nymphomania' – or an abnormally high female sex drive – is a common secondary symptom of Bipolar Disorder. This psychotic disorder, in turn, may be the result of incestuous sexual abuse in early childhood. The subject, while on a 'high' (in manic phase) is frequently seized by irresistible carnal desires which may not be tempered with any normal sensible precaution or social inhibition. She may therefore on such occasions indulge in wild orgiastic behaviour quite at odds with her everyday lifestyle. The desire for wild, even brutal, sex with complete strangers, perhaps in public, is common. Some celebrities, among them the beautiful and talented Vivien Leigh, have famously exhibited such behaviour.

    While such women may enjoy these experiences at the time, they do run the serious risk of harmful repercussions – from disease, physical harm, unwanted pregnancy, ruined marriage and alienated friendships. However, moral censure is usually unwelcome and, in any case, pointless.

    Any male (or female) who forms a relationship with such a woman can expect an enormous rush of sexual gratification and fulfilment of wild sexual desires – for a time – but should also be prepared to suffer seriously unpleasant consequences in the longer term, as their partner will soon begin to look elsewhere for the excitement they crave. However, as the man said, there is no doubt that it's good fun while it lasts.

    • Laura

      I actually liked the article despite the author scaring off most of her audience with her hostile responses but your response John Alexander was brilliant. Have you got your own blog?

      • John Alexander

        Thank you, Laura. Sorry – no blogs, but please feel free to write again re your own experience or ideas on the subject.

        As you might have gathered from the last para of my comments, I know a little about the subject from personal experience as well as from research.

  • judith

    great work tanya.keep it up.those who profess to be nymphos let them be so,and those who need help let them find it.i'm doing a paper on this subject and these facts were really helpful..thanks a lot

    • Lisa

      What kind of paper? If postdoc paper or highly likely to be published in an top level medical or science journal (i.e., Lancet), I’d be itnerested…

    • George

      I like your moral attitude, live and let live.

  • John D.

    I had a nymphomanic girlfriend once. She didn't cheat, but she had 2 other boyfriends, and a girlfriend, besides me, and she was doing it constantly. None of us got jealous for her attention because we were all worn out. Damn it was fun, but it also showed me I don't have the energy to handle a nympho girlfriend.

    • Judymc

      Wow, what is your definition of cheating? Sounds like more than an nymph problem to me.

  • Kristi

    Wow! Just a note to all those people who are complaining that this list does not contain facts: This IS a list of facts!!

    1. The term “nymphomania” DOES only apply to women… FACT.

    2. Victorian doctors DID believe that overindulgence led to nymphomania. (It doesn’t say “overindulgence leads to nymphomania”, it says Victorian doctors BELIEVED that it did.) so again, this one is… FACT.

    3. Phrenologists DO believe that an enlarged cerebellum indicates a big sexual appetite. (The list doesn’t state that an enlarged cerebellum is indicative of one being a nympho, it says phrenologists BELIEVE that it is, making this another… FACT.

    4. The term nymphomania is no longer used by the medical profession. I’m a nurse, married to a doctor so I can say, with certainty, that the term is not used in the medical profession, so again, we have a… FACT.

    5. Victorian doctors believed nymphomania was a symptom of other diseases. Again, for those of you who can’t seem to find these words on their own, it says Victorian doctors BELIEVED nymphomania was a symptom of disease. Nobody is saying that nymphomania really is a symptom of disease, simply that Victorian doctors once believed it was. Another… FACT.

    6. Women who suffer from what was formerly known as nymphomania are vulnerable to exploitation and/or abuse from others… DUH! Of course that’s a… FACT.

    7. Some consider it a sin. We all know that some people consider any form of sexuality a sin. This is obviously a… FACT.

    8. Other people don’t see it as a sin. Same as above… FACT.

    Do I really need to go on? People, get a life! Do you honestly have nothing better to do? How pathetic that you would criticize something that someone else put together for the sole purpose of entertaining ungrateful jerks like you. If there is anything in the list that isn’t accurate, you should point it out, correct it, and back up your statement rather than bashing on the entire list. Seems like that was just an excuse to tell the world that you’re a nympho just to see what kind of attention you can get from it. Just my opinion, but that’s certainly how it appears.

    Great job on the list, by the way. Keep it up. There will always be those morons who just want to nitpick about minor details and be jerks, but there are many more of us who genuinely enjoy your lists and appreciate the time and effort you put into making them.

    • TopTenzMaster

      Kristi, you just made my day. Probably made the author Tanya's day as well. Thanks.

      • i actually just saw this now! Thanks Kristi, and you did just make my day 🙂

    • Judymc

      Any form of sexuality, is ONLY a sin outside of the confines of marriage. Inside that relationship, a couple is allowed whatever pleasure they both agree on. However, there are some acts that are just completely unsanitary, even if it only involves two people. It is obvious our school system has failed miserably in teaching Health.

  • scaredkinky

    I’ve been looking for lists or quizzes online that I couldread/ take to find if I’m a nympo or a sex addict. I have found a few and taken them but they all make it seem like I can’t control myself which I can so I don’t feel I’m addicted to it but I seem to have traits of both so I would like to find a quiz to get a straight head-on answer. Anyone that knows of any please tell me.Tthank you.

    • Mark

      Hey there.
      I don’t know of any quizzes. Sorry.
      But from your post you seem to be looking for a definitive answer.
      I wonder if “internet quizzes” are your best bet.
      If all you are is curious then I apologise for the next part as I may come off as over the top.
      I hope if you have concerns that you will talk at least with your GP as they are the health professional that should be able to give you the answer or refer you to the health professional that can give you the answer.
      My marriage was ended when help was not sought in time and things get out of control.

      Best of luck whichever path you take. Remember to be safe.
      😉

      • Here’s the toll-free number for Sex Addicts Anonymous: 1-800-477-8191.

        I also just looked online and there are several workbooks you can buy as well, which might help you figure out your situation. Check out any major online book store and type ‘sex addiction workbook’ into the search bar- at least 4 different workbooks came up.

        Thank you Mark for your helpful and kind response above and best of luck to you, scaredkinky-

        • Thanks, Tanya. We should have included the help number originally.

          • I added it to the list as you suggested.

          • Nicole

            Very informative! And for everyone who thinks its all fun and games… It isn’t always!

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  • Nikki

    I have delt with this affliction since I was very young and it truely is an addiction of sorts. It is a craving that effects my entire body and mind. I can be watching some non-sexual movie and suddenly my body will flush with sexual excitement all by itself and I begin craving sexual contact like a drug addict for a fix.
    Of course this caused me to reap the title of slut as soon as I got to junior high school level and has followed me ever since. It is a name that I have come to accept as inacurate as it is.
    As for the “list” above, some of those things listed do help in a limited way for me and may work better for some so I refuse to dismiss it as rubbish because every woman with this problem has to constantly keep trying new and differant ways to decrease the urges that course through her. I consider my case as extream because I have seen numerous “professionals” and have undergone many differant treatments with a net gain of zero.

    • George

      @Nikki, Nothing in the world would delight me more than to fall in love and settle down with an attractive woman whom I could be faithful to as she played the field for her pleasure and enjoyment. I would gladly support her, protect her, enable her, and feel grateful for her. My mate would have no reason to feel guilt or fear for experiencing the greatest experiences in life. I view real and healthy sex to be true intimacy, and this is how I want my partner to explore it, and immerse herself in it. Safety, eyes wide open, precautions, are number one. The idea would be to create a gravy train, that goes happily along for many years. Nikki, if only I could find one woman to say yes.

      • Nikki

        I think that I have probably met and married the only man in the world who has the ability to love me despite my condition. He knew from our first night together that he would never be able to keep up with my sexual needs so he added his brother to the equation. I serve my husband first and my brother in law second which seems to work most of the time but when even they cannot fulfill my needs my wonderful husband brings in other men to satisfy my urges. It’s not a normal relationship but it fulfills our needs and goals.

  • crystalsunshine

    Boy do I love sex. This list was fun.

  • Amanda

    I have a hyper sex drive (Nymphomania) and it’s not always pleasant. I could be just sitting and watching tv and I get the urge. Most people would think that my husband is the luckiest guy in the world considering I am also bisexual, but it’s wearing on him. I do keep a vibrator near by my bed and I do take time to satiate that urge, but no, it’s not always pleasurable. I am currently in therapy for numerous reasons but i’m also there for my hypersexuality. and we’re trying experimental medications with my psychiatrists. So, I tend to agree with the article.

    • George

      My doc put me on a generic for Paxil, and my sex drive dissipated. It was kind of a relief actually.

  • steph

    I was diagnosed with hypersexuality when i was 16 and had my first child by the time i was 17. i also have been in counseling and therapy for this with no luck. i am married now and things were going great until my husband lost his job and decided to become an over the road truck driver leaving me with no sex. masturbation does not help and i am completely being overrun mentally and phxsically by sexual thoughts that i cant stop. Ive talked to my husband and he can only say he doesnt know what to tell me to just deal with it i am in complete turmoil. any suggestions on how to deal with myself and help my husband to understand?

    • George

      Steph, I worry that you could destroy your relationship with your husband. Most men react badly to their wives being with other men. I mentioned in a previous post that when my doctor prescribed Paxil, my sex drive went to near zero, but I was happy. Relieved in fact. So, this could be a solution for you. A happy healthy family life is important. Please take advantage of the help available to you.

      Now, just so you know, I would cherish a wife who wanted to and could and would enjoy lots of lovemaking with lots of men.But men like me are very rare. And besides, there are just too many diseases out there. The neighbors wouldn’t understand. And some men would mistreat you. It is just very risky Steph. And you said you had a child, so you risk not just yourself.

      So, please, protect what you have. If, by some remote chance, your husband would approve, then there are sites devoted to helping a married woman find men for uncommitted intimacy. But it is the norm for a man to not approve, and not be able to handle it should it happen.

      Also, since masturbation does not help, I wonder if it is the risk taking that you enjoy? That is kind of like gambling. You end up loosing.

  • Katie

    Sir,One of my cousin sister repeatedly changes her boyfriend,and before engaging to any guy, she everytime says that, this one is the boy she loves and wants forever..But on the next or subsequent months she again starts giving interest to other boys, results in the breakup. She also had practiced sex to all the boys, she till now got engaged with.Please suggest …..Is she is suffering from of nymphomaniacs?

  • Amber

    I was married for 20 years and got divorced due to many severe issues. Despite of all my problems in my marriage I never once cheated or did anything inapprropriate. He was the first person I was ever with when my parents wedded me of to him at the age of 19. I remarried and have a great husband, we are together for 4 years. I love being intimate with him in every way. He from out of nowhere called me a nymphomaniac. Does wanting one’s husband out of love and passion means I am a nymphomaniac?

    • John Alexander

      Amber, you are NOT a nymphomaniac. You just love having frequent uninhibited sex with your husband. It’s an unfortunate fact that far too many married women are seriously limited or foolishly inhibited in their sexual behaviour, even with their marriage partners. Curiously, this seems to commonly follow motherhood. Sadly, such inhibitions can cause major marital problems and even lead to male infidelity – when the man cannot get what he wants at home so begins to look elsewhere. Tell your husband he is a very lucky man and that most other men would envy him and would love to have such a partner.

    • Judymc

      the problem lies with your husband ( no pun intended), Your feelings are completely natural. You may need to ask him about his feelings for you, because it is love that inititates love making. Or perhaps he has low hormone levels. That is a common problem, or stress.

  • George

    John, reading your letter to Amber disappointed me. Biologically, a woman can far outlast any one single man. As you rightly stated, most women never come close to appreciating that. And a woman like Amber may well be able to drain any man, and still want more. But if a man marries a woman only as a sex gratifying measure, well, that is sad. Disappointing. In fact, it sucks. If the whole relationship is based on the male getting his rocks off, well, maybe he should marry a blow up doll. If, on the other hand, one partner can no longer satisfy the other, there ARE alternatives to dumping, such as seeking help. Unfortunately, in this area, our society seems to condone cheating over honesty. The reason is jealousy. If a woman loves a man, but finds sex bothers her, she is being extremely selfish in denying her husband her blessing in seeking that relief elsewhere. The same is true if the man can no longer satisfy the woman. There is no reason to tear up a relationship over this. No reason except that people prefer deception to honesty, pride to love.

    • John Alexander

      I’m sorry, George, but I don’t quite follow your argument. You seem to have misinterpreted my comments. I was certainly not promoting cheating as a solution to anything. Rather, I was trying to offer some moral support for Amber whose hubbie doesn’t seem to appreciate what an unusual sexual jewel his wife is. To call her a ‘nymphomaniac’ just because she likes frequent uninhibited sex with him is just plain foolish on his part. Perhaps he was only kidding? Let’s hope so.

      We need a few more married ladies like Amber. The divorce rate would decline rapidly.

      • George

        My apologies John. I misread. Yes, these imbalances in drives certainly do exist, and can cause problems.

        In my dreams, the person with a stronger drive would be able to safely satisfy themselves without creating discord in the relationship. I wish it were as simple as one partner wanting to jog five miles, when the other wants to jog 20. In jogging, one would presume the conflict could be resolved without any strife. But where sex is involved, all sorts of factors emerge, which promote unfortunate courses of action, such as cheating, divorce, abuse. And in some relationships, even the jogging issue will play out in conflict and pain. It is unfortunate.

        As I have gotten older, I have come to understand how it is than a man’s (or woman’s) drive slows down. Still, the experience can be precious enough that suppressing it is a real loss, as you stated.

        • Nikki

          George,
          I assumed that as I got older I would grow out of this condition, but I never have. My desire still runs my life and is as strong today as it was when I was being led into the woods by the boys of my home town.
          I have what I consider to be a super marriage to a man who not only understands my condition he loves my sexuality and me as a person. To help me control my needs he has allowed his brother into our sex life because he knows that he alone is unable to keep up, no matter how much V he takes.
          What I have found is that his and his brother’s sex drive has begun to diminish but mine is still as strong as ever at 34.

  • dawn juan

    the biggest problem with any of this is that you never actually interviewed any people that deal with hypersexuality.

  • John Alexander

    Whether a woman is a ‘nymphomaniac’ or not, one of the universal problems with SEX, no matter how exciting and fulfilling it might be initially, is that even with the best of partners, it eventually palls and loses its appeal. The process is called ‘habituation’ and you meet it in many other areas of human activity too. In food, for example, no matter how much you might love devouring, say, chocolate ice cream, if you begin consuming it frequently enough you will eventually find yourself disliking it and keenly wanting to try something else. In music, that catchy ABBA song you loved so much as a teenager later seems totally corny and you just don’t want to listen to it any more. Unfortunately, it’s the same with SEX. Sharing the same bed night after night, with the same person, with the same genitalia, doing (more or less) the same thing over and over, can become a complete turn-off after a while.
    Some ‘experimentation’, perhaps with sex toys, ‘games’, or a bit of porn, might help for a while but it merely delays the inevitable. Sooner or later, if the opportunity presents, one or other partner will climb into another bed with a new partner – just to enjoy the fresh experience. Then the process will start all over again.
    It’s entirely possible that so-called ‘Nymphos’ – of either sex – have a very low threshold of sexual boredom and crave the extra excitement and stimulus of the NEW at more frequent intervals than most of us. While this may occur as a result of hormone imbalance or childhood trauma, or perhaps both, it becomes for them a totally irresistible drive to break away as frequently as possible from over-familiar partners and surroundings. Habituation has set in: so off we go. …
    This ‘liberation’ may be a lot of fun for some but, unfortunately, someone somewhere almost always gets hurt. Alas, such is the reality of life. Sex may indeed be a joy but it can also be a burden.

  • Jane Doe

    Behavioural addictions are real, and can have a wide array of vices and concequences. They are as real as the double-standard for socially acceptable male vs female sexual drive intensity.

  • Lina

    I’ve been having a really hard time with this ever since I was a little girl. It interferes with school and work not even because I’m always trying to find a way to satisfy it, but just because it’s something that I can’t ignore that’s always there. It makes it difficult to focus in class and the task I’m performing. I wear my boyfriend out and it’s terribly frustrating to be left every night like that. I don’t cheat and never have, but even though I love him and have been in this committed relationship for three years, I admit the thought crosses my mind. It’s a terrible thing, in my situation, to be trying to deal with this. I’m not sure what the point to my comment is, but I’ve just had this Thing that I’ve dealt with ever since I can remember that I feel I can’t speak about with anyone. This list was humorous, but at the same time a little helpful. Thanks!

  • That 60% were abused statistic is definitely false. All the ultra-sexual women I’ve seen have come from very privileged backgrounds and have permissive loving parents. As for them not liking sex, yeah no, they say themselves that they love sex. It makes perfect sense to, why would they want sex so often if they didn’t like it? Not to mention, they are proudly promiscuous and make no secret of it to anyone they meet.

    As for why female sex addicts are more famous than males. I honestly think its because female sex addicts do tend to be more extreme in their sex drives. The ones I’ve seen have said they have sex around 4 times a day, every day and even after that still masturbate a lot and I honestly don’t think guys are capable of that much sexual activity unless it was a temporary situation but not constantly like these girls. Not to mention, they tend to sort of have this aura of sex and sensuality and I’ve just never encountered that with guys.

    Make no mistake, I don’t think there is anyone who hasn’t met plenty of guys who are very sexual but the girls I’m talking about seem to take it to levels that I’ve never seen anyone else, guy or girl, go. The most sexual guys I know have an off button for sometimes relatively substantial lengths of time, but the most sexual girls I’ve seen, even if they aren’t currently talking about it still seem to be emanating sexual energy. Its a very strange but beautiful thing really. A lot of guys don’t like them and call them whores but I actually think they’re really unique and remarkable people.

  • Wanda

    I just read your article. Love your lightness of touch and humor 🙂

  • Michael Nix of Lincoln

    This article on 10 things you may want to know about nymphomaniacs is very informative, non- judge mental and very well put together, almost clinical. Nevertheless it’s extremely entertaining and I would recommend it as worthy for anyone who wants to broaden their mind and as part of need to know customary taboo topics.

  • richard

    How much is too much sex? How much is too much alcohol? Doctors say over 3 units a day for men. But if an individual man can drink 10 units daily and live to be 100 without any bad effects to his health, I don’t think that limit applies to him. Likewise, if a woman needs sex once daily, but has the need to have a different partner each time, I think she has a serious problem and is living dangerously. If another needs sex 5 times daily, and her partner can only manage twice at best, but she is happy to masturbate to achieve her remaining 3 orgasms, I dont think there is any issue. As long as her relationships, her job, her health and her reputation are unaffected, I would not call such a woman a nympho or a sex addict. The problem of nymphomania then is clearly a psychiatric one and has little to do with the actual sex drive. It is one of extreme promiscuity caused by low self esteem leading to a desire for intimacy coupled with a distrust of real love and permanence. A nymphos sex drive could be high, low or almost non-existent. She has sex to feel worthy of affection, but does not love herself enough to believe in or commit to one man. Childhood abuse is often behind it, and this occurs at all class levels. The idea that only low income families abuse their kids is just bizzare.

  • Sora Lee

    i dont know if i a nympho or not but my sexual drive very active i always imagine doing sex with every men i meet and with men that i’ve been attractive to. even if i was talking to my male colleague i can imagine they being naked and already measure or guest how big or long their penis.and now too many man with muscle on tv and walk outhere make me crazy i just want to jump to their cock and suck it but i know it cannot happen i’m still so young but my husband is far ages from me I do love my husband but i dont even remember when the last time i achieve my orgasme. every day is a hell for me and i never satisfied with my husband anymore. i get bored and sometimes hate my husband. in one state i really just want to pick any man who pass my door to having sex with me but because of religion and embarrassment i try to stop it and ending up with masturbation. I once try to cheat to my husband but i ending up think about my son and the embarrassment i’ll get it stop my desire. Sometimes my thinking and desire to having sex all the time distract my works and study. i can be blank and blurr for an hour just for thinking about sex. and anytime if someone offer me a sex and will keep it secret from others i think i’ll take the offer event read all the comment here makes me horny. Ohhh please can someone explain if i am a nympho or not?

    • Anton Kukharev

      You know that makes me feel very horny too. But when you tell about you are the mother right now It makes me stop bc for that reason. Good Luck girl , and good luck to your children(s) too

    • Jitendra Bharti

      No u r not..

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